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The Different Types of Parenting 1. Gentle/Permissive Parenting This is a kind of parenting where the parent is very lenient, sets few rules, and rarely enforces boundaries. Discipline is minimal or inconsistent. These parents are also often helicopter parents—overprotective and deeply involved in every detail of their child’s life to prevent them from facing discomfort or failure. • Pro: Children are likely to feel close to their parent and comfortable enough to open up and express themselves. • Con: Children may struggle with self-discipline, respecting authority, and making independent decisions. Over time, they may also not trust their parents enough as they grow older. 2. Neglec...

Question: Assalaamu'alaykum. How can I control my anger when they make me get upset? Answer : 1. Ensure to make lots of dua about it, and to do Shukr (gratitude) whenever you're able to control it. 2. Talk to them about it, about how you want to change and that you need their help. Tell them that what you wish to do is to take some time to calm down when something happens to avoid reacting wrongly. 3. Take some time. Whenever they do anything, leave the premises if you can. If you remain there, chances are that you'd get more provoked and react in a not-so-good way. If you're unable to, turn to something else, stay as far as you can, disengage, occupy yourself with other things and try...

Why Must You Correct Your Child In Public? Imagine you're having a meeting with some of the elderly people in your family. They have all gathered at your place for the meeting. While the meeting is ongoing, your 8-year-old child passes by and walks between the old people talking. In Nigeria, or at least in Yoruba culture, this is very rude and inappropriate. So how would you correct your child if he does that? Let me tell you what most parents will do: they will make the scene about themselves. They will put themselves under pressure to prove to their family members that they're not raising rude kids. So they will shout right there in public, "Why are you so mannerless? Can't you see...

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Do Not Make Your Kids Unsafe Around You (2) A man in his early twenties once told me: "I do not like to be around my father in public because I do not feel safe around him. I feel like I could make a mistake, and he wouldn’t mind humiliating me right there in front of everyone." In our last writing, we talked about how being overly permissive and having no boundaries for your child will make them feel unsafe around you. While some parents fail to set boundaries for their children, others fail to set boundaries for themselves in how they discipline, and both result in their children feeling unsafe. The safety of a child lies in knowing they would be corrected if they do wrong, but yet,...

Do Not Make Your Kids Unsafe Around You(1) I was at the masjid one night with a man and his son, who looked a little over two years old. The man's head was glistening from being newly shaved (this info is important), and he sat doing adhkar. All this while, the child played around. Suddenly, the child came to him, hugged him, and gave him a very dirty slap on his newly-shaved head. I was shocked. He did it again, and again, and again. On the fourth or fifth attempt, the man tried to dodge his hit while he continued his adhkar, but he never scolded the child. What comes to your mind when it is said that a child feels unsafe around his parents? A parent that beats their child a lot? A...